Surviving a Break-Up

Before you jump online to meet another single after a break up, take a deep breath and take some time to heal properly.

Here are some helpful Do’s and Don’t of Surviving a Break-Up:

• DO drink lots of water and stay hydrated. So many people neglect their body and don’t keep hydrated or eat nutritious foods to help heal.
• DON’T stay bitter. Don’t take it out on your friends, family or shut people out of your life. Talk to close friends and allow them to care for you. Get out of the house once in awhile for some fresh air and new perspective with them.
• DO think positively. A positive state of mind will manifest into a positive outlook on life.
• DON’T lose faith in other singles. Assuming that all single men and women out there are bad could result in you missing out on someone pretty great!
• DO pick a new hobby. Whether it’s a pottery class or new gym, try to pick something that you and your partner did not share an interest in. Make the activity yours, and create your own indendence.
• DON’T lead others on. If you’re not over someone yet, make that clear. After all, you wouldn’t want to be someone else’s rebound.
• DO keep active. Call up your old friends, go out for a night on the town, or start a study group. You’ll find that surrounding yourself with other people will make you feel better, and the support they provide will help rebuild your heart.
• DON’T listen to sad break-up music. If you had that special song picked out for your wedding don’t replay it and think you’ll never walk down the isle to it. Move forward and listen to something upbeat.
• DO pamper yourself. Indulge in a day at the spa, a baseball game, trip to a local beach.
• DON’T contact your ex. Ever, ever, ever! Contacting your ex will only be taking steps backwards and take longer to heal.
• DO get it all out. Wallow in self-pity, cry into your pillow, write bad poetry. Lay in bed wide awake, all night. Express your feelings as openly as you can. The more you keep things inside, the worse the feelings can become.
• DO let go of the relationship. You may end up together in the long run, but for now, consider things done and certainly don’t wait around for him to come around. Life is too short for you to be waiting around for someone.
• DO exercise! Exercise has proved to help people fight depression and anxiety. A 30 minute walk a day will  help.
• DO change your environment. Do this especially if you’ve lived with the person. Take pictures down, gather their things in a box and place it as far away from you as possible, rearrange the furniture. Cleaning has been found to help people with breakups. It keeps you busy and doing something productive!